More young women than ever—45 percent—are trying anal, according to the latest research from the Kinsey Institute. If you're considering having anal sex for the first time, you're probably wondering how to prepare, relax, and enjoy the intimate moment with your partner. We called in the experts: Rachel Needle , Psy. The last thing you want to be before attempting anal is tense. If this is your first time trying anal sex, spend some time relaxing—take a hot bath, ask your partner to give you a sensual massage, heck, you can even meditate. You can also focus on specifically relaxing your anal muscles. To see what that feels like, tighten your butt muscles—kind of like a kegel for the other end—and then release.
1. Relax your mind...and body
Going from having nothing up your ass ever to suddenly a whole penis can be jarring in many ways. The rumors are true: Anal does have the possibility of getting messy. If you want extra peace of mind, make sure the surface you and your partner engage on is comfortable and washable. Sure, the idea of a numbing cream that protects you from feeling any potential pain during anal is nice, but the risk for injury down the line is not worth it. Take any pressure to perform off yourself by trying penetrative anal sex alone first. Get a toy and a condom for easier cleanup and go at your own pace. Either way is a hundred percent fine, and if he keeps pressuring you when you have made it clear that it is not on the table, tell him to suck it. Before embarking on the full monte of penetrative anal sex, you can—and should!
2. Communicate openly
Maybe you've always wanted to go in through the back door, but haven't had the chance to cross it off your sexual bucket list yet. No matter your experience level, you might be in search of tips to make your next anal sex experience the best it can be—and who better to guide you than Dr. With her help, we assembled a guide to anal sex for beginner and advanced practitioners, from the hottest positions to the best toys to add an extra boost of pleasure. Here's how to have mind-blowing anal sex, whether it's your first or five-hundredth time.
If you're new here, you may want to get my discreet newsletter to learn how to make your lover sexually obsessed with you and only you. Click here to get it. It's free. It's discreet. This beginners guide on how to have anal sex is in-depth. If you want to skip straight to the anal sex techniques and positions section, click here. I have also created a separate guide here on how to full prepare your body for anal sex hygiene, etc. Before we jump in, you may want listen to my anal sex podcast to learn some powerful anal sex tips for intense orgasms. Listen to more podcast episodes here.